SOLVED.... what a relief!
I had already run memtest, and the RAM had passed.
Yet... memtest86 has been radically strengthened since I last made my bootable copy.
Using the latest version? Bad RAM. Pull that RAM (still have 8GB, enough for now) and all is wonderfully well.
H/T
@kalasnikov for the "long shot" thought, and
@oguz for the reminder. I highly recommend getting a current version of the USB-bootable memtest86 dot com version.
And, I got to learn and document some important aspects of managing my Proxmox cluster