If I will just remove one SSD from my server, will my PVE boot automatically?They aren't mirrored. These are single partitions that are kept in sync by the proxmox-boot-tool. If you ever need to replace a disk you need to clone the partition table from the healthy to the new disk, tell the proxmox-boot-tool to sync over the bootloader and only then tell ZFS to replace the failed ZFS partition. Its explained in the wiki. But as both disks contain the same bootloaders your server still should be able to boot if either of the disks fails.
If I will increase RAM to 64Gb what swap size will be right?Linux doesn't require swap but its useful to have a little bit to prevent processes getting killed by the OOM killer in case you run out of RAM. I usually set the swappiness very low so swap is really only used to prevent OOM but not to free up RAM in normal operation so the SSDs life longer. If you only got 16GB of RAM 2GB swap would be totally sufficient for that.
How to use both disks to swap? Create a swap partition on each disk and add these two swap-partitions to the system?So you can use fdisk or parted to create one (or two, one on each disk) yourself and then add it as a swap partition using fstab.