Sorry to resurrect this old thread but I thought it might benefit others that come across it.
I was not aware that always-on or hot-standby was not a feature of Proxmox HA and only discovered this after commissioning 8 servers in a cluster with CEPH. I made the mistake of assuming that this function would be possible since we've had this working on our current environment for quite a few years.
Perhaps the docs could more clearly explain that parallel VM's/hot-standby is not possible with Proxmox? Although entirely my fault, having discovered this limitation this late in the process has come as somewhat of a shock and I'm still trying to figure out what my next course of action will be.
Our current solution, although proprietary and more expensive than Proxmox, has worked perfectly in terms of seamless failover of VM's and is Linux based using KVM. For us the main reason for wanting to switch from our current solution was the cost and also the greater control that Proxmox gives in general in terms of custom configurations.