Hi,
just some input, mostly regarding storage
- verify must perform extremely well ( max 12h for all data verify )
Means you want nothing spinning, i.e., you want SSDs. Being able to go through 30 TB/TiB of data in 12 hours means you need a sustained read-bandwidth of around 700 MiB/s, so SATA would be already on its limit - current SATA provides at max 6 Gbps = 750 MB/s = 732 MiB/s, and that's without overhead.
A ZFS 10 mirror may still work out as it can aggregate bandwidth of multiple SATA links a bit. There are some SSD series like the Micron ION series that go to 8 TB per drive, could be the cheapest option to barely get you there, but other vendors have such too important things would be to have power loss protection (capacitor) and being very durable.
An 8 drive ZFS/BTRFS RAID10 would probably get you to the performance required here.
But, if you plan to be able to restore and/or write new data to the PBS during that time and want to expand that in the future you'd probably better go for NVMe drives, for example U.2 ones, they're also available in bigger capacities, e.g., 15.36 TB for Micron 9300 PRO (but again, there are other vendors too, just naming an example).
You'd only need 4 drives to get a RAID10, even having only 3 (RAID-Z1) could be an option, albeit that may limit extensibility a bit more.
In general, do not safe too much on memory, that only starves the page cache and or the ARC (if ZFS is going to be used) and that would make it faster. Say 8 GiB base plus 1 GiB memory per 1 TB storage would be a good rule of thumb for a lower limit that won't be a bottleneck soon.
- restore should be able to saturate 10G link
10G could get saturated with a RAID 10 of enterprise SATA SSDs and could even be a bottleneck if you go for the U.2 ones, but adding a 40G card down the line, if it actually becomes an issue, can be possible.
Well, U.2 is not like as common as SATA, but it's also not exotic anymore in the server space.
- at the same time it should be reasonable priced
Maybe it would help to give a budget estimate. I mean, the requirements you're stating do not sound like they are meant for some lightweight home lab use (albeit I know some crazy-well equipped home lab folks).