Just to update everyone, I successfully stopped the softlockups by disabling mitigations in the host and in the client vm.
added this to the kernel command line in /etc/default/grub
then ranCode:mitigations=off
Thanks for the help,Code:update-grub
-Schmerbs
Take a look at this thread:
https://forum.proxmox.com/threads/p...ue-with-windows-server-2019-vms.130727/page-6
There are 2 posts from the dev team what to do to help them in investigating the problem