By the way, ZFS mirror on two HDDs only - how slow can it be vs the same HDD under MD? Rumors says ZDF is quite slow, and deadly slow it not tuned up properly.
That depends heavily on how you use it. Having transparent compression will actually increase throughput and storage efficiency if the data is compressible (e.g. operating systems, logs etc.). Resilvering disks is much faster because only the used data is mirrored, not everything like with normal raid1 (md included). So setting up a RAID1 (or more precise a mirrored vdev) in ZFS will directly yield a synced mirror. Having snapshots is great. ZFS combined lvm and filesystem in one thing, which is great, because free space can be used in all filesystems/zvols. Support for Copy-on-Write (CoW), so clones are very fast. You have incremental replication and the best feature of all is the silent data corruption prevention by self-healing due to checksumming. Every flipped bit on disk will be found and corrected. You already mentioned that ZFS has Proxmox VE support and that is because of its awesome features.
Of course all of those feature cost cpu cycles and memory, but features outweight the "potential slowliness", how much that will be. Just for comparison: raw throughput measured in fio will be slower for ZFS (depending on the used data and setup), but you cannot compare only that. If you take the use case virtualisation into account, you will need snapshots and may want to transfer them to other machines and then ZFS has the huge advantage, because of its incremental replication. You also have snapshot and rollback capability for the hypervisor, which is also very nice.
Don't get me work, I also used md for over a decade, but ZFS beats it feature-wise out of the ballpark and that's what matters now.
You see, I'd prefer MD as it is possible to recover it easily (while ZFS recover is hard to understand thing if something go wrong)
I really don't see that. If you have a failed disk, the commands are very similar and are just a disk replace. The rest is taken care of - like in mdadm, just faster, because you only need to mirror used blocks, not everything as with mdadm.