tried it again with 32gb of ram
root@pve1:~# time /usr/bin/kvm -id 101 -name TrueNAS -no-shutdown -chardev 'socket,id=qmp,path=/var/run/qemu-server/101.qmp,server=on,wait=off' -mon 'chardev=qmp,mode=control' -chardev 'socket,id=qmp-event,path=/var/run/qmeventd.sock,reconnect=5' -mon...