Ok, I'll clear it, it's not config from first post.
Machine I'm trying to backup is on my 1st pve - physical machine is hp dl380 g8, 384gb ram, 2x 8 core cpu, Sas disks on raid60 - storage for vm drives is the directory (so file based). Pbs is on 2nd pve: dl380 g9, 256gb ram, 2x 6core cpu, ssd...