Thanks for the thought out response!
Yes, I fully understand the correct approach to a system working in the intended fashion lol. This is also a homelab and no one is relying on it but me, so off the beaten path hacks are interesting if for no reason other than to have tried it.
Giving each of the original three nodes two votes is a pretty simple approach, though you are correct that it doesn't achieve allowing the fourth node to activate by itself without the og three up.
At the core of this, my main goal is to have the ability to easily migrate between the og three and the fourth node without affecting their current quorum. I've seen the experimental remote-migrate feature which I'll have to try. That would mostly solve this except for it not being a ui element right in front of you like the regular migration feature, so it's somewhat more clunky to use until it's integrated.